To me what you call “love” is being yourself…it cannot be defined as we are all so unique…It is everyone, and everything, all of life, it exists, in everyone…everyone holds a piece to make up what love is…who we are is different to every other being. You are a unique gift just like everyone else. Love is not something specific just like a gift can be anything in any form. For one the same gift can be the worst thing in the world to the other it can be the best gift in the world! A smile can be a form of kindness as well as a form of cruelty. “Love” is expressed through the other within their own unique design. Have you ever had a hard time finding a gift for someone? That is because you have to find what that person defines as love, based on who they are.

You will find some aspects of love within yourself and others through everyone else. Love cannot be defined as something or someone specific. This is why they say there are many kinds of love, it is not something solid…it expresses itself through you in its own unique way. So love is something different and unique within every person. It is who you are deep within and who everyone else is deep within. You cannot define it…naming certain actions as loving and unkind it all depends. One moment love can be this and another something entirely different.

This is why they say “love is everything” “the answer is love.” It is not even selflessness and unconditional…it can be…yet it is so much more..it can also be selfish and conditional. They are just tiny pieces, examples of what love can be…love can be anything…stop trying to define it.

So when you are searching for love you are searching for that which you truly are which can be found nowhere else because there is no one exactly like you. It is not even self love, that’s part of it, as you are one form and every other living being forms another. You are also searching for something that you cannot hold in your hand unless you hug every person and living thing at once to have all the forms of love within your grasp.

We simply choose which types of love we prefer with the people or persons standing next to us. When you are being you, the world is tasting a unique flavor of love. Another version. There are billions!!! Such a shame it is when you are not being you, the world looses a special gift, another differentiated version of what love is that can be found nowhere else. 
We meet love every day, all around us…in a tree, a flower, the ocean, the lady bug, and porcupine. Ask nature it knows. It is herself, she is not trying, aspiring, or perspiring to be anything, she just is. And through herself gives life and astonishing beauty to everything around it. Allowing you to be that too…to be…YOU. She is simply being. Whatever being you is…that is love….

You can never be without it, it exists everywhere around you. You can find it through the other, through a human, a dog, or wild animal. You can find it walking walking along the beach feeling the sand beneath your toes, or looking at the stars…It is within your grasp every moment of the day. This is why you find dogs, animals, and nature healing. They are just being themselves. They are grounded like a tree. Every moment of the day they are aware and choosing what is correct for them to be and flourish… when to grow leaves, absorb water from its roots, to store it within its trunk…. moving to the rhythms of life that is constantly moving and changing. They do not plan, they can’t, it is too unpredictable, the storms, the rain…instead it moves with life through its awareness…moment by moment. The result? It scatters oxygen throughout the entire world giving life to everything. It is not trying to do anything, it is just being the tree it is.

So give up this insanity, the search, the questions, the answers, the trying, and be the unique tree you are and if you forget and need a reminder just go sit by a tree. It is awareness…its own unique form of awareness…everyone and everything has its own unique form and through this awareness you can find what you call “love”.

What if you stopped this insanity of trying to define what anything is?

What you call “love” my friend is simply a matter of awareness as to what definition of love is correct for you whether it be another human being in the form of a lover, partner, colleague, or friend…or a pet, a place to live, belief, a system that works for you, therapy, a type of music, a food that nourishes your body, or a sport that heightens your adrenaline…the answer lies within you and your awareness. You can choose to follow that or not…this is where you have a choice. Yet you do not have a “choice” how, where, and in what form it will come. Love is not a “choice” just like happiness is not a “choice.” It is an awareness of what form of happiness and love is correct for you that nourishes your being, that love or happiness that allows you to be you, and THEN choosing that.

A tree does not choose who it gives off oxygen to or what is going to nourish its roots it is simply aware every moment of the day and it moves along with it, with life, with being the 
unique tree it is.

What if you would be the unique tree you are?

When you are being you, you will express forms of kindness, what kindness is for you, and the other will perceive it as so in whatever form it takes. We are never truly not being our complete full selves, just cutting pieces off, so we are always being some kind of type of “love” just hiding all the rest. The more we are being ourselves the more of that exists. Unkindness and cruelty come from being those aspects we are not, the outside world. Yet at the same time those little aspects for another can be who they are so when they are being it, those same things are acts of kindness and love, and those aspects they act out that are not them take the form of unkindness and cruelty. Even an act of unkindness can be perceived as an act of love for the one who performs it, it is simply a lack of awareness of who you are and trying to be that which you are not.

In essence love does not exist through a specific form, person, or thing. Perhaps it is simply a word we created to describe all the differentiated aspects that make up life?

And this is why you are the greatest gift you can give anyone….

Every one of you is and has been a gift in my life and I am grateful for you…I learn and discover a new form of “love” and beauty through you…thank you….

and now I am off to be….🙂