People base their relationships with others on love. But is it about loving the other? Or is it about being in a situation where you can love both yourself and the other at the same time? Where both can be themselves without compromising who you are? Maybe that’s the only way it works? Where the relationship naturally results in you loving yourself more, the other, and what you make together. You can be more of you, they can be more of themselves and you can be more of what you are together and what you create together. If that is not the case it doesn’t mean you don’t love the other or care about them anymore. You can love yourself and they can love themselves, and you can love each other, separately.
A relationship of any nature in which you can be yourself, and the other can be themselves and you can be yourselves together, without trying to change anything. Just being with each other. It just happens, when it is correct it flows wonderfully, you compliment each other’s being, no matter what your difference. You cannot force it, nor create it, it is a result of you being, that’s all you have to do is be. You don’t have to do anything other than be you.
With some this will allow them to be more of themselves with others it will take them away from themselves, it’s simply about knowing when it is correct for the both you, there is no fault or someone to blame. With some you can live in beauty together, with others you live in beauty separately. In both cases you get to be grateful for each other. It’s not an ideal or a dream its real…I know it’s possible because I live it.
When we do not follow this, honor this then the not-self is amplified, created, harnessed which results in idiotic blaming. It doesn’t matter what type you are, what profile, what your motivation is, your view, what centers you have defined or not. It doesn’t matter what your differences are or your sameness, none of that makes ANY difference when it is correct and you both can be with each other as yourselves. Anything can be a problem or an issue or something wonderful. You can be yourself with everyone, no matter who you are, you can exist with anyone, you can love anyone, care for anyone, be with anyone, it is not any specific group or belief, idea, or story…its individual. And that is the beauty you never know, it is not determined. It can only be discovered individually with that person. You will never have anything remotely close to sameness we are too different. Perhaps the only sameness that can exist is love of self and the other.
If you are not correct to be in each other’s lives the way you THINK they should be THEN ALL these things, these differences then become a problem ONLY then, and each’s not-self is amplified and thrives. If you enter into any kind of relationship with anyone with any kind of predetermined view that is mind, you are not listening to your own unique knowing. You are functioning from belief, limitation, and mind. Or if you try to analyze why it is not correct why the relationship does not work blaming a certain characteristic, type, center, you are again being mind at that moment, you are not you, you are not recognizing the uniqueness of you or the other, you are seeing one tiny piece of the whole trying to find and excuse, turn it into something ugly, and you lose the greatest gift you can receive acceptance…acceptance of who you are, who the other is, and whether it works for both of you without blame. Acceptance of life a result of being who you are. Being not attempting to change that…make you or the other something they are not and make the us what it is clearly not. There will be no gratitude then nor love. There is no formula, there can’t be, we are all unique and what we make uniquely together.
The only correct relationship is if I can be me and you be you at the same time. Without judgment.
Does love really exist? Is it something solid? Or is the result of you being you? The expression of who you are? You cannot create who you are you can only be it, your body knows what that is, that is your inner knowing and awareness, it is not mentally determined…it’s a discovery unraveling, seeing what that is and being more of that. It is not mentally determining… determining…that you should be that person’s friend, or lover, or business partner, that you should see them ten times a day, or twice a year, or have this interaction be this way or that way in order to be loved or be loving instead of being you with the other and allowing the other to be themselves and see what unique relationship evolves from that. You cannot know how that would look like, how could you? Or decide what that will be. This mixture of two people has NEVER existed before nor will it EVER exist again. You can only know if it’s correct for YOU if this other is correct for YOU by being you and living it. Following that moment by moment knowing, that is you.
You are unique…watch the unfolding by being without seeking to change, create it, just be it. It requires no effort, there is no struggle, it is the easiest thing in the world as long as you do not resist. There is nothing to change within you, within the other or in the world there is only the knowing of who you are, what is correct for you, who is correct for you, moment by moment. When you allow the gift of you moment by moment by being it, life aligns you with the gift of the other, the correct people, moments, situations, and life.
So here is to the correct people and incorrect people I love you all and grateful for all of you and…go be you…